Mama Mia

Curious about the lack of older female characters in fiction and literature or indeed in the culture at all. Where are they? Even when they exist, they may not be so flattering. Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice features Elizabeth’s mom as being over the top, desperate to get her daughters married into a good situation. Yet who can blame her? Because the alternative for being a poor spinster in England at that time was dismal at best. She has 5 daughters and no sons who will take care of an unmarried sister. The young women have only their looks and charm and intelligence to help, no fortune.

In fairy tales the mother is just part of the parentage or worse, such as Disney’s version of Snow White and Sleeping Beauty. There are older women in the Greek tales and plays: Penelope has alot of action and story given to her in the Odyssey, which is quite beautiful to consider how a wife copes when her husband goes off to war for 15 years or so. When is enough enough?

We saw some really good movies come out of the 1960s and the 1970s that featured real women’s stories, not just “who will I marry” or such. Hollywood has had some good gems despite all the bad examples. Norma Rae is about a woman who helps unionize millworkers and has to cope with raising her children on her own.


women and men

Last time I checked, every single person on this planet gets 2 cells to start out life with: 1 from mom and 1 from dad. Therefore each and everyone of us is a mixture of male and female. Yes men have XY and women have XX but these are just metaphors.
The Alpha Male is simply a myth at least for humans. To me, the true alpha males were Jesus and Ghandi and Maya Angelou and really truly brave brave souls who cannot stay restricted to what is defined for him or her. Buddha. Thomas Jefferson. Aristotle.
For some to think it means a muscly Superman or Batman type person/ man who gets all the babes he wants any and all the time, you are misled. Look within. That which you seek is within you. It is not in some hot sorority babe woman or in being CEO or President or having 250 children. (by the way, Osama Bin Laden’s father sired over 200 children and had upteem wives. look how his son turned out!)

I think technology and the Internetzation of life has made us more isolated and lonely. GO out and hike in the woods or fields or beach. Nature heals. The greater segregation of genders is troubling. We need to each understand others, of both genders. We need to know ourselves.

Winter blues and blahs

It’s so easy to sit at home and be depressed / feel deprressed. It is too easy to turn on the tv and tune out.
the quote from the 1960s / 70s counterculture was “Tune in, Drop out…” not Tune Out. So we keep going. I keep going.
And we are not the first peoples to deal with this in history. What was it like to be stuck in a cabin in the middle of vast landscapes as a French trapper in the 1600s in Illinois or Minnesota? Mighty lonely.

Technology and People

Heard a comment today “I’m not into computers, I like people.” I’ve had other comments subtly directed at me a long time ago that were similar, simply because it was easy for me to use and find my way around a computer. “Just because someone has high technical skills, and low personal skills does not mean they will get special treatment.” Why would I ask for special treatment simply because I liked using computers?

Having strong people skills and computer skills are not mutually exclusive. Computers can be a big bear to deal with, but so can people. A computer is simply a device to use, just like a car or telephone or television. When was the last time you knew someone who lived in a village in a hut?


I have nothing against tattoos. Some people have beautiful tattoos and more power to them. I don’t know or understand if young men understand that extensive neck tattoos are something many people my age, i.e., over 40 may find the appearance of such strange or even frightening. And if said young men are trying to be in sales, and not sales to young people of wild t-shirts or anything, but of household services to people of all ages. I wonder if they are truly comprehending the reality of the situation.
I almost got a tattoo a few times, but then everyone was getting them and it seemed the fun went out of it. for me at least. Could never figure out what I would want on myself. And why get one that I can’t see anytime I want?

Jazz Festival Seen and Heard

Biker guys in denim vests and tatoos all over in the lobby of Eastman Theater checking info on their iPads. not something one sees every day. 🙂
Also many men checking out young women while with their wives / etc and pretending to NOT check out other women (esp. young women). You guys are soooo obvious!

Trayvon Martin

The tragedy of Trayvon Martin is that was so unnecessary. George Zimmerman wanted to protect his neighbors. Yet he ended up shooting his neighbor’s son in cold blood. If he had gotten to know his neighbors better, instead of being so overly suspicious and paranoid, following people arround just becuase they “looked suspicious” then he might have known or guessed that the young man in question was in fact the son of his neighbor.
I wish race were not a factor in this. Yet it is in a big way. Without the racial aspect, this young man could be any of us, any of our children.
Where is my constitutional right to be protected from idiots with guns?

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